[quote=@Paradigm Shift]It's hard when I'm still struggling and she has disposable income.[/quote]
That seems like the opposite of hard.
Play your cards right and you could stroll down easy street into the sunset buddy

[quote=@Carantathraiel]xD i make nothing

made a joke about that today at the potluck. She was gathering leftovers so she wouldn't have to cook. I said I never cook on weekends anyway. 
She goes "Girl, you can afford that?"
And I said "I certainly can't. but my husband can."[/quote]
That's probably a big deal in Japan, since I think modern Japanese culture is just full of men and women who work really hard and don't really have as much time or interest in committed relationships. Of course you actually live there you'd probably know better than me