There's an image going around from tumblr that basically explains it. It's from the point of view of a physically disabled person who had to deal with similar reactions over their disability.

[IMG]http://i.imgur.com/LV1Zxsx.jpg[/IMG]

What people aren't understanding is that black people and gay people aren't getting preferred attention or bonuses. The 'bonuses' they're getting comes with a FUCK ton of baggage.

And on top of that this is two weeks after 49 queer men and women were killed. 

That is why people cringe at the concept. We have these things because we are literally being murdered for existing. Heterosexual people don't have to deal with that.

We would love to not have to need or want parades and history months. But the Pulse incident proved we're a long way from not needing it.