So after a rather heated discussion I had today I decided to write down a little rant. This discussion showed me that many women are very confused about what men are told to do and not to do. It seemed almost as if, according to a lot of people, women were told that 'men do whatever the hell they want' and that [i]they[/i] should be the ones to protect themselves. I was told that, actually, rapists are normal guys. So the norm for males is that everyone goes around raping and spiking drinks? And then it's confusing for this person why I, as a man, would feel insulted that she insinuates that [i]I too[/i] could possibly be a rapist and/or could spike someones drink. I'm dumbfounded.

[i]I will probably say 'women' a lot but I mean a specific brand of women, and some of the men. Don't take it personally - if the shoe doesn't fit then buy another shoe.[/i]

Now if I ignore my strong feelings that, yes, women should do more to protect themselves, such as learn self defense.. I am very confused as to why this person I discussed this with was under the impression that men aren't taught anything about rape. Furthermore, why they thought that men thought rape and abuse is somehow ok.

[i]We need to teach men not to rape. Instead of telling women not to get their drink spiked before going out, why not tell men not to do this?[/i] 

Are you fucking serious? You have to be fucked in the brain to spike someones drink to begin with, do you [i]really[/i] think telling men 'don't spike women's drinks' is gonna do ANYTHING? We do tell men not to do this, in fact we hear it all the time! If you're a man and don't know that this is unacceptable behavior (by law and simply by social fucking norms) then you're fucked, your parents are fucked, and you deserve to go to jail.

Rapist: [i]“I'm gonna have fun tonight and rape a woman!”[/i]
Person: [i]“No, rape is bad!”[/i]
Rapist: [i]“Shit, I didn't know that, thank you! I'll never do it again.”[/i]

BRUH. ARE YOU SERIOUS? Do you [i]really[/i] think that will work?

A) men are told rape is bad 20x a year already
B) the media does enforce 'rape is bad' 300x a year already
C) a rapist does know rape is bad

Rapists know that rape is bad! THEY JUST DON'T CARE. A DRUG DEALER KNOWS DEALING DRUGS IS ILLEGAL. BUT THEY DON'T CARE. TELLING THEM NOT TO DO IT ISN'T GONNA CHANGE SHIT.

And then this idea that all men are potential rapists. Do you have [i]any[/i] idea how insulting it is for a woman to tell me to my face that I am a potential rapist? So no matter what I do, how careful I am, how specifically far I stay away from women unless they tell me [i]verbally[/i] that it's okay for me to come closer just to talk... no matter all of that I would ultimately still be a potential rapist. Guilty until proven innocent, right? And that's a battle you can't win because you can't prove you're not a rapist. 

So what's next, contracts to have sex? [s]Wait no, we have those already in the US, lol, go figure.[/s] You need to schedule an appointment with the office of sex and pleasure to schedule a sex appointment, do all the required paperwork, wait 30 working days for a government reply, and if it's accepted you have to pay 100€ for a sex-permit that's valid for the day you want to have sex.

ONLY THEN WILL YOU BE ALLOWED TO SAY 'I HAD CONSENSUAL SEX WITH THIS WOMAN'. 

And then she hit me with the 'I'm scared of men because they can hurt me'. Anyone can hurt you if they carry a weapon, anyone can do anything to you. People can stalk you to your house or just contact you endlessly for no apparent reason, but physical harm is somehow the prime reason you're scared of men. 

And yeah sure I can understand that. No matter what those Tumblr feminists tell you, two sexes are very real and there are certain biological traits attached to those sexes that make men stronger than women in most cases. But [i]fuck me.[/i] [s]Please don't, I might get called a rapist.[/s] If physical harm is the only reason you're scared of men I have news for you:

this so called 'toxic masculinity' that women hate so much is also a good reason for us to step in when we see a woman getting harassed. You know, chivalry and honor and all that. Makes it so that we feel compelled to throw our weight around if a woman is being harassed and obviously not enjoying the person that she's talking with. 

It's a double edged sword, because the same men that you're scared of are probably compelled to help you if shit goes wrong. And you can't deny that that is pretty damn fucking helpful.

You want to live in a world where women are never told 'watch your drink.' 'Dress appropriately.' 'Don't talk to strangers.' Me too.

Shame that it'll never happen. Reality is cruel, get used to it.

MAN. Y'all Tumblr dwellers are really something else.