Alright, that's enough. The OOC chat is not an arguing thread about who should have done what anymore. Everyone has made their points. aviendha you have three options.

Deal with this and get the issues resolved by speaking to anyone involved that you think should have a full understanding of her abilities that didn't display it OOC through PMs.

Go along with what IC you have been given and try to fix this as an IC misunderstanding and use it as more content to work with in the way that Grey has a reason to approach Kaito and discuss it with him and find out why he stormed off, and explain herself to him if he did in fact not understand what she was doing.

Or leave the RP and move on with your life if it's going to be such a big deal. 

Whatever you choose, I'm done having the OOC just be a big rage fest of arguing, and the same points are being made on either side back and forth and it's clear neither side is changing their mind. So enough is enough.