[quote=Halo]
People aren't gonna fill out an application for the role of "friend", Espy xD You're not gonna be able to haze them for things you don't like and cherry-pick the perfect mate. Okay, sure, there are certain types of people we all get on with, but I wouldn't have a list of categories like that. You meet someone, either you like them and can have a nice conversation or you don't, and you get to know them if the former applies. Your friends will have traits that piss you the hell off, but you love them anyway for their good qualities. Imo, you can't go out there looking for people who'll perfectly fit some set of criteria you have - it's not searching for someone to fill a role or do a job, it's searching for a friend. That's something a little more organic, natural, messy, and unpredictable. Just talk to people. If you like them, carry on talking to them. See where it goes, what trusts and feelings develop. And maybe they will be someone who gets upset when you get icy cold, even if that frustrates you, and you'll need to compromise on that behaviour to maintain your friendship because you care about them.
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So making friends isn't science then. Only saying I have certain traits like that where I do things and it isn't personal and I don't do sorry very well either because that would also involve lying. Basically I want someone I can relax around and those traits seem to allow that. 

So how do I speak to someone on a personal level without pissing them off. I also am rather terrible with small talk. No ability to keep the conversation going.