[quote=Esper]
I understand feelings. I look at the situation. Consider the perspectives of others. Decide the result that gains me the thing I want. In example, bonding. Then I act according to that for the greatest gain for greatest amount of individuals. Sometimes it isn't what I want either and benefits me in no way. This leads me to believe the individual is selfish and does not consider individuals other than themselves in their actions. It bothers me, but not enough to act one way or another or express that I am sorry for a situation they ultimately caused to happen for themselves.I also try to not inconvenience others if at all possible. Potentially also help them gain something in the process.
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I'm explaining what empathy is, not saying you don't have it. You state that you don't believe you have it ("where can I buy it"), then argue that you do have it when I try to define it - what can I say? I don't know you; I can't say whether you do or do not act empathetically. I'm giving advice - what you take from what I say is down to you.
All I can say is that I think you look at this in a very detached way. In the end, empathy and friendship and connection is about feeling - not running from or detaching from emotion. It may just be that the way you write and logically express yourself comes across a certain way and that I'm completely wrong. Again, I know nothing about you.

Anyway, look, in summary: just talk to people about common interests, about yourself, and show an interest in them. That's how to talk to someone. From there? If you like 'em, you like 'em, and you let the friendship grow naturally. Do things together, talk together, and so on. *thumbs up brah*