Kijani thought about what Phoebe was saying. Approval. Once upon a time she'd wanted that too, from her mother and father.. But she'd learned that it was just not going to happen. It took a long time for that lesson to sink in, but eventually it had. She'd learned something important from that. "Ah... I found that the most important part of approval has to come from you. I know it sounds like a total cliche, but if you're waiting for someone else to tell you you're awesome, you're letting that person control you. It's up to you to be confident of yourself and your abilities." She paused, winding one loose dreadlock around her fingertip. "You're not your mother. Just... keep telling yourself that. Some days that will be a sad fact, others, it will be the most beautiful thing in the world."