Sometimes it's difficult to understand the mind of your own characters. It's funny how that works.

Fell free to have Balon do whatever you think he would in the situation. The instant he attempts to strike her he will have what pretty much amounts to a massive heart attack. Xir'ain didn't put a shard of his power in Balon's chest for kicks; it's also the best choke collar never invented. Enly'air has something similar inside of her as well.