[b]Something I get annoyed with:[/b]

When partners make plots all about their characters. This happens more blatantly in 1x1s I think, because in groups, it's easier to work toward a goal with others, whereas 1x1s is more exclusive and dynamics change more often, depending on the situation. I have a partner on tumblr who tends to make a lot of drama and "twists" happen so her characters are put through more crap (ex: her character hits his head and suddenly has bad flash backs to when he was in an abusive relationship. Or her character is gay and currently accepting about himself and while my character is openly so and her guy is now focused on himself than the relationships he's forming, the rp has now become focused on her character's and their hardships, rather than the bonds they share). I don't mind developing through challenges but it seems like she thrives on bad things happening and it's getting tiresome because when something good starts to happen, she twists into something with her characters spiraling out of control. 

I just have an issue that when she does this because it seems like she's only writing about her characters and to herself, rather than engaging my characters who of course want to help but who are getting to the end of their rope too. As am I, so it's becoming harder to hide my annoyance when I write as my characters, which is making the RP more slowly than usual. She's a good person and writer but I've brought up the issue that we need more fluff and progression and I don't know if she understands how tired I'm getting. I can only tolerate so much drama. I want her roles to develop but I wish I wasn't the crutch. I wish we could create something together. Getting it off my chest helps, I know I should express my concerns more but I just don't want to insult her or her ideas, they're interesting but I hate it being so one sided. 

*sighs*

EDIT - I wasn't sure where the topic was or if this was this "open" so erm sorry if I posted where I shouldn't have.