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I almost never send PMs first. People PM me and I'm like "ohey" but if I send a PM to someone and they respond that obligates me to respond back and makes me responsible for this initiated communication which stresses me out for some reason that I don't know. Same with emails too. This is probably rooted in some deep insecurity that I've just always ignored, like my email.
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I used to feel that way a little. PMs require so much energy for some reason. It's like you have to compose a long message and as each of you say more and more, the responses necessary kind of explode until you're writing essays.

that's why I've always preferred IMs.