I don't understand, why would you have three asterisks to show you 'really want to do this' but then have the { } for 'won't do this without a really 'good' plot

Why even display pairings if you're not interested in them otherwise?

Sorry, don't want to sound rude, it just makes you seem like you have really high standards, and that makes me apprehensive and wary, and I wouldn't be surprised if it did the same for other people