@Gwazi

[Quote]What bother's me is the not knowing. I always hate not knowing/understanding something, being left in the dark, lied to, etc.
So when people behave in very angry/hostile ways for apparently no reason, it bothers me because I'm just dying to know what the line of reasoning is (or if they are not actually using reason, what causes them to emotionally explode in such ways).[/Quote]

Yeah I thought as much. Because then if you knew it can be placed into your world view, managed, and also in turn reflectively give you more understanding and control over your self. Not knowing in many ways is like being punished for a crime without being told what you did wrong. The thing about social settings though, is that in regards to people responding positively and working with you, it's all to do with the messages you give off. Because what people are measuring is "how much are dependant on the results of things", "is your message authentic". 

In order to genuinely be liked, because everyone ultimately are always looking for reasons to why people get what in order to learn and better themselves, and so everyone ultimately have degrees of caring about what others think about them, with that then displaying social status, they are naturally attracted to people who aren't emotionally restrained to things and authentic about it (because people can read 90% of what you're putting off in body language and tone), as it shows that the person's sense of value is placed somewhere else and therefore they mirror the person's sense of value back to them, and it shows honesty that this person's sense of self can be trusted. 

So, ultimately, not caring about it, but then making the effort to find an independance from the outcome and make your life happy without it, is the best policy in fixing it. Try meditation, it's gr8.