I appreciate that this is very personal to you, but I think it's important to remember that Xander has aspergers, and has a more in-depth experience with it. He can use his characters to represent his own situation however he sees fit. Besides, it's not the name of his situation that's important, but rather the character's actions. So much energy has been spent already debating specifics and scenarios, we should remember that everyone's experience is different.

Idk, I'm really just asking we burry the hatchet. Agree to disagree and no more arguing.