Again, I feel like we should have some thought put in to what direction we want to go into. If we wanted to be a motherly sun goddess for example (which has plenty of room for violence, think a mother bear protecting her cubs but with the force of a star) then we would want to adopt a warmer tone. Being apathetic and cold to our foes is one thing, but it could potentially win us many more converts if we face defeated enemies with forgiveness and compassion, an almost motherly figure who sees their retaliation as childish lashing out. With such a personality, resisting would feel almost like resisting a loving parent, and would make it more difficult.

A colder god could be more intimidating to their foes, but would likely result in less converts among them. I'm not saying that one is better than the other, simply that that's what the tradeoff would be.