[quote=@Etcetera]
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I don't know how to get her to let go. And I don't want to be a jerk.

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I suppose. 
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Well, it'll mainly go towards the direction of "jerk". But you have to let her know that you don't have the same feeling for her as she does with you. If ya estabilsh that now, it'll get way easier later. But, do try to tell her discreetly...where noone can mostly hear.