Not sure of how else to word it, it's all a little jumbled in my head, too.

I guess the idea is; We all think of people as 'him', 'her', 'he' or 'she', it's impossible not to. We point at people and say "Did you see what [b]he[/b] did?" the same way we say "Check out the [b]blonde[/b] at the counter." What I'm curious to know is, can we look at someone and say "Look at him" without 'him' automatically translating into: Male, Masculine, Bread-Winner, Physical Strength, Limited Capacity for Expressing Emotions, etc, etc. Is it possible to look at someone and see 'him' or 'her' without any preconceived gender roles being attached to them? Can someone look at a girl and not immediately think 'Less capable, physically' and reserve judgement until they can actually [i]see[/i] what a person is capable of or what sort of person they are?

It just seems that the people I've met have to [i]consciously[/i] ignore socially constructed gender stereotypes, but can someone [i]naturally[/i], without conscious effort, regard someone as equal?