[@Akayaofthemoon] I can't say how sorry I am that happened to you, but I'm really happy to see that you're moving past it.  Absolutely don't take anything he said to heart, I guarantee he didn't see anything in you besides something he could turn into an insecurity he could exploit, because that's what people like that do.  Please don't blame yourself either.  I know it's hard, I blamed myself for a long time too.  I felt like I failed to protect my family from someone who was blatantly taking advantage of us.  Some of what you just described was literally me for years, right up to the lying to keep the peace because you genuinely believed that your parent was happy.  The truth is that there isn't anything you could have done, the only person to blame in that situation is the person manipulating you.  

I don't know, I'm sure you've heard it all before but I felt like you deserved some encouragement, and hell if I can't totally relate to your story.