[quote=@Flooby Badoop]
Let me guess, you told him "We raid their colony, sparing only the women and children."
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No.

[quote=@Flooby Badoop]
You've already established that your people, especially your warriors, kill men just for being men. What's gone wrong with what happened?
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[quote=@Flooby Badoop]
Because your forces are perfect and professional automatons who will follow your every order exactly, without fail or misinterpretation? Things didn't go as planned during the invasion of Kapitas. Do you hear me complaining?
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It's not about the killing.  It's not about the brutality.  It's not about winning.  It's about knowing that "orders" will not be disregarded.  If I detail an invasion path, unless there is an excuse why my orders were ignored, even if it's as lazy of an excuse as they took a wrong turn, I should be able to expect that there be some attempt to accomplish the plan.

Of course they're not automatons.  But there was no explanation why the plan wasn't followed.  There was no "they took a wrong turn".  There was no "the commanders saw that the fort was less impressive as it was planned and attacked because of that".  There was no "the commanders could not restrain their men from attacking due to the perceived weakness of the fort".  From what was posted, the orders were not followed "just because".