He told her not to apologize, that it was fine and she nodded, "Okay."

As he had nothing further to say to her, no further rebuke, she thought for a moment on what he said, repeating over and over in her mind that he didn't say what he said to be offensive, but just to express how he felt. It was so offensive to her though and it was a hard challenge.

"When you say that it is not a choice to be hurt or not...I don't feel that's true. When someone loves someone else, it takes a lot more than what I did, saying my words calmly and softly to you to express a will to hurt someone, especially a loved one. I didn't do that, and I don't think its fair to compare how I softly spoke to you, and how you've bluntly spoken to me with irritation in our bond and even anger when we've argued before. Whenever I was hurt, that was the case, and it wasn't your words that hurt me, but how you said them and what you felt inside. Tonight, I have had no anger toward you in my explaining Yahal; no saying to you that 'explaining Yahal to you is impossible so I'm not going to bother' like you've said similarly to me. How do you think that makes me feel to hear that my husband thinks that arguing with me is impossible and that you refuse to discuss anything with me that you don't understand?"