Elann above all had listened to him and knew that he was ill-equipped to deal with the conversations they were having. It just meant that he kept hurting her though with his lack of understanding. His apology clearly wasn't that, it was that he was sorry she was hurt. That of course wasn't enough for her, but having sympathy for him, she listed out why she was feeling the way she was.

"I'm not going to go over everything we said. I already explained it all, that it was how you should think better of me instead of becoming immediately hurt, that you had deflected blame onto me and I didn't understand why you felt the need to argue when we were able to talk peacefully. What made me not want to talk to you was when you stated that I shouldn't talk about things you think I don't know about, that silenced me and hurt me. When you stated that trying to argue with me is impossible, that I always try to win and that you aren't going to bother with talking to me on things you don't understand, that silenced and hurt me. Yet I still patiently expressed my apologies and was calm. I understood it was a hard topic for you, and I tried to mend our conversation again, showing why I felt the way I did and you shut me out, stating that you weren't going to follow my God, you didn't care what I did, and asked if we were done, as we have ended all our fights. That silenced and hurt me. Yes, I was done, done talking to you until you felt sorry, not for hurting me, but for the words and actions you took to cause that fight."

She continued then, not giving him room to breath or argue back.

"I know you don't understand the complexities of this topic or why I'm hurt, but that doesn't change the fact that I am - as any person would be if their husband talked to them that way - and that your behavior was bad. I am not your mother. I am not trying to change you. I am not going to punish you. You can continue to say harsh things to me in complete ignorance that they are harsh, but I chose and will choose to deal with it in silence. I am not angry with you, but I am also not okay with your behavior."