It's kind of both, but mostly the latter. Jaspin is/was the great love of Elizabeth's life - there was no real love between her and her husband while she was human - so she probably never sought after anyone else, for both reasons. She'd never love anyone like how she loved him and she wasn't willing to let someone else into the position to be able to hurt her so intimately and so badly. 
What about Jaspin? Did he find or almost find love after Elizabeth?

Interesting that he'd concern himself with his girls so much. 
I've never played anyone like this, never attempted to play a man so callously lewd. It'll be weird.