Ohh, that would be cool if it was a mixture of races yeah, I could totally see them secretly watching what's going on in known space and kind of going '...the heck's going on with those guys now?' 'should we do something?' 'dunno, maybe, I mean...if it doesn't work out we could just kill 'em all again' xD (never heard a more accurate description of the opposing ideologies in my life ;) XD)

Ah yes, we need a nice newfangled and more 'flashy' name for sure! =P Guess we could just call it "Grey Order" for now till we come up with something better? I'll have a think and a search around, maybe we can use some words from some of the canon'd languages to translate some kind of synonym for 'balance' and make a really cool-sounding name for it xD
Should be something that reflects their 'equality and balance' views, I guess?

Yes, I think we did ouo hmm...maybe we can find a middle ground to include a bit of both? Letting it happen as we go is definitely good as far as being more natural, but we definitely need to plan at least SOME of it so it doesn't impede the rest of the plot XD I feel like they've got a pretty good foundation as far as their friendship goes by now at least, so I guess we just see where the natural chemistry goes from there? :P  I guess a good place to start would be after they've ditched daddy dearest (because as much as I love Bol, Roan'd probably murder him if he thought the two of them were getting too cosy for his liking while he was around XD); guess it'd just be silly little banter and things like that, that neither of them really think about or notice at first? Or we could do something silly like Ari has a night terror during one of their hyperspace trips and she wakes Bol up cause she's too on edge or riled up about everything to deal with it on her own (plus I imagine it'd be kinda hard to hide something like that when you're basically connected to someone else's emotional 'thought train' 24/7, and it could be kinda cute if she's never really had the opportunity to go to someone for comfort with something like that before-Roan would probably just tell her to man up and stop behaving like a frightened child after all and I imagine she just gave up and learned to keep it to herself after a while xD) 
Totally just spitballing here so feel free to alter, add or remove anything as you see fit of course ;)