To avoid "altercations," I simply discuss who's going to win the fight between our characters. Sometimes this is as simple as deciding what would be more interesting to see, while other times we will discuss what would make more sense. It takes all the OOC drama out of it.

If you're talking about PvP, that is a topic that I personally have no interest in and try my best to avoid. Shoryu Magami is a bit more invested in that sort of stuff, as well as anyone else who frequents the PvP forum.