[@Lucky Knight] 

[quote] it was within the realm of possibility for a family (even an aristocratic one) to resist giving up their daughter even if it meant that they would be spitting in the face of enormous honor or denying their duty;[/quote]

Maybe in times of peace, perhaps, if they were particularly jaded against Aes Sedai, but during the Trolloc Wars, no. Not a chance. Not when the Aes Sedai are literally the only people in the entire Westlands that can actually defeat the Trollocs. Not a chance in hell.

[quote]human beings are not universally charged towards the good of their fellow human beings, and I could certainly believe that a mother and a father might not care about "the world" as much as they do their own child. [/quote]

Maybe if they weren't nobles, but a noble's first duty in the Wheel of Time is to their people, to their nation- NOT to their family. That's why they are in the role of leadership- that is what the whole Treaty written for the Ten Nations was all about. There was intense nationalism during this time, too, hence no one unified army- only individual armies for each individual nation.

[quote]Especially if -- as a generic example -- they believed that the war against the Shadow was a hopeless one and no amount of conflict or resistance would change it. Indeed, they might actually want to spare their child the horror of an unwinnable war and keep her safe against the strong possibility of a premature death.[/quote]

Except that every single one of the nations' leaders and nobles- even the ones whose nations fell- continued to fight to the very end. And do you know why? Because they saw the possibility of a win, because they could drive the Shadow Forces back when- guess what- AES SEDAI were there. 

[quote]To let others die in her stead so that their daughter might live as long as possible before the ultimate end of the war. So in essence a response that would be neither rational or logical, bur rather emotional and selfish.[/quote]

Except that Aes Sedai live for 500+ years; channelers not properly trained have normal lifespans, at the best- most channelers who aren't properly trained end up killing themselves, purposefully, or accidentally. So, their best chance of having their daughter actually live through the war would be- oh holy shit I don't believe it!- to allow her to become an Aes Sedai.

So... literally none of your points make sense here, sorry.