[quote=@Lady Amalthea]
People who can't drop shit even though everyone else has moved on. ><!!!
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[@Lady Amalthea] Doesn't sound like a roleplaying problem. Not dropping those is usually considered a good thing. :P

I guess that could also be about following trends but I'll guess not. As a social argument, that can become a problem itself.

Sure, not holding grudges is usually a good thing. So say, despite having an argument with someone, you can still the very next day or maybe within the very next breath, talk to them about a different topic. Without making it personal or assume that person is trying to act malicious, merely for having previous bouts. Sort of a "everyone has a bad day rule." I mean even friends and family fight once in a while right? And you still love and like them in some capacity, so it's beneficial for social interaction if you can still be social to complete strangers.

I know a lot of online places in particular, take 'one disagreement and I'll shut you out of my life forever occurs a lot.' Which is quite unhealthy if that's something they follow in real life. But that person, talking to you again, usually doesn't mean they secretly hate you. Only means they've actually gotten over what had happened and moved on. Ignoring someone or believing civil discussion can't take place with people you disagree with, has a numerous amount of problems.

But one still has to be careful with that argumentation, because it's possible to be abused. Similar to "this kid bullies another kid because of ____" whatever that excuse is and whether credible or not. It's just justification for something bad you've done. People in general like to justify their bad decisions, everyone does it. Also I'd argue one's that start fights tend to also use the "well I'm cool, so why can't you be?" argument, usually when lacking empathy or understanding how human emotions work.

The aggressor is already in a bad mood and needs something to take it out on. Some use themselves, some use objects or addictions. Others use others. That aggressor is now attacking the defender. The defender may be in a bad mood, or a good one. Doesn't matter. But this person probably does one of former and not the later. (aka uses anything but others to remove their bad mood.) So, while the aggressor is actually fighting to [b]improve[/b] their state of misery. The defender is only getting negative effects of the fight. (unless their a masochist. In that case it's fantastic.) So the aggressor can much easier let go of their interaction, because it was made to ease their stress. The defender does not reap the same benefits.

Just two cents on that. :3