[quote=@Ammokkx]
Well, I didn't realize bitchfest got locked. Guess I'll do my venting here, then:

I dislike when people, under the guise of discussion, try to draw all the attention to them and throw a pity party, especially if the issue didn't happen all that long ago.

But hell, you can't criticize these people. Either they demonize you, deflect it, ignore it or downright twist your words to say something you didn't.

And you know the worst part? Those people refuse to move on and let it go- lest by some miracle a year passes and they have a change of heart. But they message you for a couple of days after the fact, bugging you, or publicly ranting. And when they disguise it under the pretense of addressing and critiquing everyone they're fucking petty, and so am I for even bothering to vent about it.
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There's nothing wrong with venting about problems. It's always better to let go of frustrations than to hold it in and possibly explode when you wouldn't want to. The thread was closed because of people were bullying forum members through passive aggressive actions. And people didn't want that on the forum.

When you say move on...shouldn't that mean "can be nice or civil" to someone who treated you poorly instead of acting rude to them? I mean that's how it works in real life right? Fight with a friend over something dumb, you make up and share about your days a few hours later? I've done that with my roommate and high school friend for 5-6 years in a row.

Sure, I'm fully aware what everyone is talking about. But I seriously/easily can get over something in less than a hour. Others can to. So no guise needed here.

Somebody who fought with me, asks a separate question. I can give them a separate answer without needing to pout in a corner or take shots at them from afar. Are we arguing a person can't/shouldn't do that? I guess maybe you can call that person naive for assuming that person you fought with -wants or cares- to have friendly discussion with you, but that's also not entirely one person's fault. But I don't see why you can't argue about something and in the very next breath find common ground.

If it takes a year for you to think someone can change their opinion, it really doesn't. But even if you can't change yourself completely. You can both acknowledge your mistakes and at least try to be a better person as a result. Ignoring a problem if it's still there doesn't actually magically make it disappear.