[quote=@MelonHead]
Seems like too many generalisations and assumptions getting thrown about. If you feel unwelcome, it's because you've let yourself feel unwelcome, or because you've decided any one or two or even three people represent the whole arena. They don't. 
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As an 'outsider', exactly - a few people don't represent the community. There are a number that I have quite nice conversations with and now that I'm back on shitty internet for the next few years (and now that I closed up one of my business ventures), look forward to continuing. If someone stresses me out, I just don't generally participate in matches or events with that person.

However, there definitely feels like there can be a big barrier to overcome that can feel not worth getting over if you have a bad experience. But, that is pretty typical for any differences in culture or style.