People define themselves, [@POOHEAD189]. Perhaps that is the best way I can phrase my understanding in its most simple incarnation. It matters nothing if you are man or woman, white or black, disabled or able bodied, young or old, among many others. Either you decide who you are, or what you will be, and pursue that with the hand of advantages and disadvantages you were dealt or you accept defeat. You can renegotiate some, many even, qualities and factors of life, but most people choose not to because it is difficult and often quite long term.

I, for example, should not have been on this green earth from the start. Medical odds alone suggested I shouldn't have been conceived, let alone born. I myself am a testament that disability and deficiency are not all an individual is either beyond that. Additionally, I survived a family feigning normalcy with a number of terrible realities in it, all of which were disguised by illusions and I even got to experience living with plenty, the idyllic American Dream, down to outright having nothing, at best from check to check. Later on I willingly gave up years of my life to do what I was told I could never do - told I never could be - so that I could do whatever I wanted with my future no matter what.

Claiming "privilege" is an excuse to shift blame on to someone else, a factor of the victim identity that many people have enthralled themselves with. This is not to say it is less difficult for some or harder for others, but everyone has their own demons. For example, the ones I face are invisible, but if anything all of those disadvantages made me greater and at this point I no longer fear them - some I have gone so far as to embrace. Do not misunderstand me, I tried to whine and complain, especially when I was younger, but instead of getting a handout or even assistance, circumstance gave me no mercy; I had no option but to fight on.