I disagree with you, Nutts. In my experience some of the best romance/fluffy RPers have turned out to be gay men, and some of the most aggressive battle-oriented players have turned out to be chicks. 

When I am negotiating RPs with people I state my preferences for what kind of RP I want up front. My player's gender, sexuality, race, whatever is literally of ZERO consequence. I don't even ask until later. I find it personally demeaning and offensive when I see people saying "I'm a guy looking for female RPers" or "Woman looking for guy players ONLY." I avoid those RPs like the plague. Not only do they almost always turn out to be terrible RPers, but there is almost ALWAYS a significant amount of OOC drama associated with those people as well. 

I don't tell my gender up front either. I have gone by male and female pronouns on this site and I never bother to correct anyone. 

There seems to be a big misconception that people generally only want to play the same gender/sexuality that they are in real life. That's not true for a good portion of the people here. Even those who write "female looking for male" they actually just mean they are wanting to play a female character against a male character regardless of the actual gender of their partner. 

Here's an example of one like that:
https://www.roleplayerguild.com/topics/167857-looking-for-male-role-for-mxf-1x1-advanced-romance-rp-ignore-post-count/ooc

But then there is an example of a shitty one:
https://www.roleplayerguild.com/topics/167718-im-up-and-moving-female-seeking-males-for-roleplay/ooc
[quote]♪ At this time, I'll only roleplay with male partners.[/quote]

Fucking [i]really?[/i]

I'm curious. When people post this kind of crap do they actually grill everyone who approaches them? Do you actually ask, "are you really a guy? Can you send me a dick pic to prove it?" Are people really so thick and short-sighted to think that a chick can't play a male character? Or a dude can't play a female character? Do these people never play characters that are gay when they themselves are straight? Or aliens with no gender? Or intersex characters? 

On a site where you're pretty much anonymous it doesn't make sense to be that picky. There's no way to verify anyone's gender. Anyone can lie. If you're that "uncomfortable" then a site like this one probably isn't the best choice. I have yet to hear a legit reason for this kind of personal gate-keeping.

Does no one ever think outside the box?

I mean, I get it if you are a straight chick and you want to play an RP about a straight chick who ends up with a straight dude. Whatever. But what the fuck does your partner's gender have to do with it? Most of us are here to have fun and better our own writing skill. What kind of world would this be if legit authors were restricted to only writing characters that matched themselves.

Boring as fuck.