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However, I don't think that's what the thread is about. It's about whether someone is comfortable playing with a male who plays as a female, or vice versa. Honestly? Who cares. If someone is comfortable with that, cool. If they aren't, you can't guilt trip them or judge them into being comfortable. They cannot help it. It's how they see things, and at the end of the day, the role play guild is escapism. As long as they aren't being an ass about it, don't be an ass to them on what they do and do not enjoy. Roleplay with someone else. 
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I care. Because "not being comfortable" is not an excuse when your partner's gender doesn't actually change anything. Would it be equally excusable if I said I wouldn't RP with anyone who is not white? If I said "no Muslims" in my rules? "Christians only?" If I said "no fags?" I mean, gays can't write straight romances, right? What about "no one over 30?" (BTW, these are all examples of ACTUAL 'preferences' I have seen on this site. Are these okay?)

Then why is "no guys" okay? Or "male players only"?

You can [i]absolutely[/i] judge people into realizing that their thought process is flawed. I have seen it happen many times before. That's why this discussion is so important. I would even go so far as to say that the very act of putting these rules in an RP [i]IS[/i] being an ass about it. And it often turns out that people who do this have ulterior motives, like using RP as a means of getting personally close to people. I have seen that happen too. It's naive to write all this off as "just how people see things".