[quote=@Drache]
[@ArenaSnow]

I don't think having a discussion about it in a thread specifically about this topic really counts as "harping on players". You make it sound like you disagree with the existence of this thread. Some people just haven't really thought about it before and once they have a chance to actually consider the issue they find that their minds are changed.

But you're correct. Some people are sexist and they will not change, as evidenced by certain people on this thread. But talking about it isn't just about them. It gives others a chance to consider the issue and recognize how problematic those people can be. It exposes the flawed logic of making those kinds of rules and helps people stay away from these bad RPers. 

In many cases, people who post "looking for female players" or whatever are just guys who are new to RP and maybe assume that everyone tends to only play a character that matches their own gender. But a quick "hey, do you actually care if your partner is a chick or are you just looking for a female character?" query is enough for them to change the wording of their interest check.

I don't think doing that is being "part of the problem". It's not like I'm going to waste my time contacting people who continue doing this even when they've been called out. And if all I've done today is help one person look a little more shrewdly at a user on this site who only wants to talk to them over Skype to find out what style genitals they have then I'd consider that a job well done. 
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The thread itself is fine, and if you were reading the earlier pages, I already threw in my thoughts on the subject. I'd like to avoid scenarios where it's deemed OK to go after individual people when they have firm thoughts on the subject, and part of that response was prompted by some of the things I was just reading combined with past experience of people posting in threads and quite literally harping about the wording of who they want to enter their thread. I did it once. It serves basically no purpose.

If someone sees this thread, that said, and decides "these guys have a point", good for them, they're up one step in my book. I personally don't roleplay with people who make it explicitly clear they're looking for a male or female roleplayer, and specify anything further than the usual 18+ stipulation (which is about as naive as the male and female thing, but legally has legs to stand on sometimes, and is something I can easily excuse).

If all you've done today is post your side of the issue and people come in and see it and agree, I'm not sure how that could be taken as you being a part of the problem.