[quote=@NuttsnBolts]Is it wrong for me to make a choice on a writer based on a gender?[/quote]

I'll go ahead and answer this. No, no it is not. That's entirely your prerogative. However, in doing so you implicitly accept that you will be judged on that action. People interpret that action differently, some judging more harshly than others.

Semi-related anecdote: I once had a 1x1 where I was ridiculously picky. I made people write me a full length reply to even be considered. I turned down three people before I agreed to take someone on. The guy was a fantastic writer and he was definitely worthy of being picked. Few days later after we're a good ten posts each along ... he comes back to me saying that he reread my actual interest check, noted that I was not his gender preference (my IRL gender does not align to the gender distribution of my characters) and did not wish to continue. Had this been a different RP I would have been more merciful, but because I turned down three people and had been really longing for this plot for two months prior, I absolutely chewed him out for it. My opinions on IRL gender preferences thus are particularly scathing.

You are well within your rights to have an IRL gender preference. You are implicitly accepting the consequences though, and in my case those consequences are that I instantly write off anyone I see doing it. Their plots, pairings, characters, [i]everything. The player[/i] is struck off as someone I will never write with 1x1. Period. End of discussion.

You are free to have whatever preferences you want, just as I am free to never consider you as a partner. (You are not actually on my shit list plz don't worry.)