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[@Odin]

I think in that case instead of discriminating against others the adult and responsible thing to do would be to just not RP smut at all. To be honest, the fact that people are getting MORE bent out of shape about being gender-selective for smut RPs is actually proof to my point that there is something very skeevy and creepy about it. It goes right back to the "treating RPs as a dating service" thing. People should be able to RP with someone without conflating the IC and OOC relationships. The fact that some people can't is a problem. It leads to drama and worse. Sexism is the obvious main issue here, but even if it's not sexism exactly, it's still problematic. If you're playing your male character as being balls-deep in a female character and the RP is going well, why should it ruin it for anyone to find out that your partner is a guy instead of a girl? There is literally no logical or reasonable excuse for being uncomfortable. You're never going to be in a romantic or sexual relationship with your RP partner. 

The real question here is "can we all be adults" and the answer I am getting is "no, no we can't."
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Well, I think we're lucky that you're not here to dictate how others should and shouldn't RP. (And, additionally, I'm [i]really really[/i] glad you're not here to dictate when people should get out of a relationship with someone. Jeez! Imagine your partner gets jealous once. Time to dive the fuck outta there!) You say;

[quote]There is literally no logical or reasonable excuse for being uncomfortable.[/quote]

and you know, I kinda agree, but then it's also people's own business what they select their partners on. I wouldn't be offended if someone said 'I wanna RP with a gay person for my gay RP' because that's their choice. They could have a WILD variety to RP with gay people only. And y'know, if someone said 'I wanna RP with a black person!' I'd find that [i]really[/i] strange, but y'know, I'd probably laugh and move on. 

Is it 'ableism' if I select my partners based on whether or not they can write two words without spelling errors, or whether or not they can read the English language? Maybe they just never learnt. Sheesh. 

If someone's enjoyment of the RP is based on sex of the partner, I find that highly strange and perhaps a bit stupid, but it's definitely not sexism and it definitely isn't 'problematic.' Unless you literally experience mental trauma from this or something in which case, please, seek help. Otherwise, just get over it. It's not your problem. If it bothers you, then you probably wouldn't want to roleplay with people like that anyway, right? So I'd see it more as a pre-warning about who these people [i]really[/i] are.

[quote]The real question here is "can we all be adults" and the answer I am getting is "no, no we can't."[/quote]

I don't know, I think I'm an adult. I fit the legal definition and, if I can be bothered, I can respond/behave myself in a mature way. I may not always feel like doing that because this place isn't that serious, but I can. 

Also, if you're gonna drive the point home about being an adult, I also would like to ask you not to impose your definition of what is good or bad on others, or when to leave a partner. I think that'd be a pretty adult thing to do here.