[quote=@Visionaryness]
You are correct, it does not. But you did not specify that in your post. You simply said "straight men looking to write smut with someone else".
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That's more an unfortunate part in word choice and the ability to convey messages on a forum. Some people will still talk in male/female directives, while others will include all gender identities—personal preference and wording habbits. Cast your range too wide and people believe you're over complicating too much, too thin and you get told you're a narrow minded individual. 

I think what's more important is the underlying meaning that someone is expressing, not a choice in a single word that apparently breaks down the entire argument when pulled apart and analysed. He's not stating your decisions and choices are wrong, just that there are other views to take into consideration.