[quote=@Ammokkx]You know a thread's blown up when Odin joins the fray.[/quote]

Stumbled upon it, and RPG as a community consists of individuals I'm very interested in (as in, the sociology of our community, and the psychology of the people here) so I was naturally drawn to it. I don't think it's blown up - people saying this is a shitstorm have obviously never seen a real one. In fact, for all my annoyance with what [@Drache] was saying + how she said it, I think both of us maintained a relatively decent posture. Nobody called each other names that were over the top. So, while I appreciate that you remember my name, I don't think the threads blown up and I certainly doubt it was me that did it. :lol

[quote=@Ammokkx]I don't think people are wrong with it having roots in sexism, but I disagree on using that term. I think misguided or ignorant might be better, as sexism is a pretty strong accusation to hurl at someone in which they will be on their most defensive once accused. It doesn't breed healthy conversation in my eyes, and especially not with the crowd that likes to frequent these threads (no offense to anyone meant by that).[/quote]

Taking sexism at it's most [i]literal[/i] form to exist, then yes, you can call this sexism. But, if we did that to discrimination, racism, etc. we could shut down literally all arguments about this by throwing a dictionary at someone. But we're humans - and words have connotations. See where I'm going with this? Calling someone a sexist isn't just going to recite a strong reaction from them, it's also just plain ignorant of what you're actually saying.

I'm with [@Song Book] on this too, though. Most often I interpret it as 'looking for x-sex character' and not my own sex. I've already approached people before asking to RP even if my sex didn't align, but I could play a character of that sex. Never was a problem. The problem I always ran into is that people who specify what gender they want for a partner are usually just [i]really really[/i] bad roleplayers. 

Additionally it's none of your fucking business why people look for specific sexes in partners, whether it be the character or the person themselves. Maybe the reason is that they get a really big boner from knowing there's a woman on the other side. Maybe they legit feel more comfortable. Maybe the reason is they wanna date a roleplayer, maybe the reason is they wanna talk about girl/guy stuff. Who the fuck cares. I don't because I know it's not my business.