I tend to become fixated on something ridiculous and obsess over it. I applied to a job in NYC which eventually I had to turn down because I didn't have the money to move there just yet. Before that point, I had made it my mission to get up there, whatever the cost. I lost sleep over it and looked at places to live at day and night. Eventually, I had to get over it.

The reason for my obsession? My ex is from that area and although he doesn't live up there, I thought it'd help me cope better, as stupid as it sounds. I  would still like to move up there, but I've been working a government job for some time and I'm thinking about retirement in under 30 years so might as well stay.