Since I’m too lazy to make a Quora account and I’m here; why not?...


[b]So[/b], in RL, I have this group of friends and close acquaintances. Five girls and three guys total including me. Often as we can, we all hang out in our college campus’ student union. We even have our designated “spot” in the pool room like the group from [i]Friends[/i]. We of course welcome anyone who wants to join us.

So recently this newcomer started showing up. His name is Spencer and he’s close friends with one of the guys in our group. Literally none of us like him aside from the guy who basically invited him into our setting. Spencer is extremely vulgar, inconsiderate, crude, conceited, and just point blank obnoxious and mean. 

He tries to bully us guys but then plays the victim when we talk him down and either hits on or degrades the girls in our group. Or both. (“Hey thunder thighs, cut back on the cheeseburgers and I’ll f*** you hands down.)
One of the girls in our group has distanced herself from us because he hurt her feelings and one of the other guys had flat said “if spencer doesn’t bounce” I’m out.

Every time we hang out as a group his buddy texts him and the ass-hat shows up and just spoils our time together. One girl literally tells him every time he appears “we don’t like you bitch, go away”. Spencer of course laughs it off and sits down anyway. From what I’ve observed, he’s an insecure asshole who tries to be the funny guy but he’s so weird and smart-alecky he can’t do it without being a dick. And our friends group is basically fraying because if more than three of us gather he appears and asserts himself.
(True story 🍷.)

Spam and helpful advice and observations welcome.