its because you're condescending asshats. Ya'll aren't civil and polite. It could have been a good discussion, yes. And Chatatrap was the first person the fire shots. Jay wasn't asking in a way that said to end the discussion. She was merely pointing out that she was joking and she really doesn't care about the topic, and Chat had to ask who pissed in her tea. After more of you were being assholes. 

Either learn how to be civil, or leave.