Ruli nodded along, having heard the name Jan earlier. He focused on the way she described Elva's marriage was 'wasn't' happy, rather than 'isn't', and could hazard a guess that it had been dissolved. Plus, the remark about Elva keeping her bed warm was a giant clue. 
"Frankly, I assumed you ... preferred something else." Ruli admitted quietly. "Ysaryn, Narda, Myka, they are all, erm, well. It doesn't matter, as I was mistaken."

He fell quiet on the other matter she'd brought up, that the idea of being put together with someone for the sake of business or breeding. "Its common among elves." Ruli said after some thought. "Arranged matches. Not always marriages, but. You know." He turned his cup in his fingers. "I think the freedom of choice is something people take for granted. You being you, what you are, or, will be again once you chase the slimy bastards out of your home, I'm sure it doesn't make it easy. But I hope you get to choose. As Ysaryn says, I hope you find someone worthy of you."