Also known as conflict avoidance. The illusion of control when you've already lost it.

I talk to mods and admins off site. Some understand better. Others are stupid enough to ignore the danger.

I want to be clear on this one. It's costs people their sanity and lives. A lot of people suffer in silence. I lost someone to suicide over a decade ago myself. Had to learn from it.

User to user: That gets some more leeway. People can talk things out.

Mods that abuse power: Different matter. Excuses for lack of communication does more harm and damage. People just might not see it. Censorship is hiding the truth.

It just takes holding conversations. It's a clear cut matter of communication vs lack of communication. Misunderstnadings will happen. Better to accept that and be prepared. Pretend people have to be perfect and that's the problem. That's the simplest way I can put it. In terms that people here can understand.

Just let people be flawed more. Is all I can really say.