[quote=Halo]
Yes, I see being told I want to control the people in my life as negative. Yes, I accept constructive criticism, but I don't do it blindly. If someone told me I care too much, I'd accept that; it's true. If they said I can be arrogant, I'd also reluctantly accept that. But if someone refuses to listen/read any of what I've said, then makes assumptions and criticises that are against the core of my ideals, then yes, I want to clarify myself and discredit that accusation. That's not unreasonable, and it's not taking as too personal - I don't want people here to think of me that way, because that's not who I am. That's not posturing, either. I know you won't view it that way, and that's fine - maybe I'll get another "ugh too much words, stop butthurting errywhar". At least I'll have clarified where I stand and how I feel.
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this is more like what I was looking for, not the woah angry blowback. Then again, I could have said it more tactfully. 8D

You may not want people to think that, but you can't stop it. What you can do is look at why people react like that, critically, and determine if it really is some fault on their part, or if you get that reaction a lot, what you may be doing that contributes to it. I thought because I'm not all involved in your life you could take it as relatively unbiased, but I think it's a sore subject for you at this point.

And I'll level with you, this is based on what I've known of you since I came to spam. The parts of your post I pointed out (I did read the rest, just more of a skim tho) were just signifiers of something I'd already noticed.

and hey, if that is something you do, it's just something you gotta work on. It's not a terrible sin.

Look at us getting somewhere now. I'm proud of us, halo.