[quote=Tyki]
so people get pissed at us for expecting them to be responsible for their chars?
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Nope. They get pissed because they expect you not to create rules. It's like a social rule, whereby you don't change someone else's post. Personally I also find it quite weird, but that's the way people expect it to work, and they get pissed when you suddenly diverge from that.