You assume that because we don't want to walk up to people, stick a gun their heads and make them help that we don't want to help.

If I get in a rough patch, I will ask for help. I will not whip out a gun and take it. We have a word for those people. They are called thieves. To be clear, I am not calling people who recieve welfare thieves. The government would be the instrument of legal plunder. 

We can start improving the situation by reforming the welfare system so a poor person never has less money in their pockets by working harder.