Halo

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Esper said
So empathy. Correct?

Empathy is a thing that exists, yes. Generally it is a good trait to have and will strongly aid you in connecting with the people around you.

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Tempest said
Hey... Hey Halo.... People actually eat several spiders in their sleep in the course of the year.

Please, watch the dirty talk - Broby won't be able to control himself.
Nobutsrsly why are you doing this? Sadistic woman.

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Esper said
Why does one apologize for misunderstanding and simply not clarify. Misunderstandings do happen and have no malicious intention on my part. Why then would I be sorry for an act that was a result of different thought processes. It isn't that I never say sorry. It is that I apologize when I am sorry. Not when I am not.

Well, in the very specific example of misunderstandings, perhaps apologies are not entirely in order - though, at times, it is nicer to say sorry to express regret that an argument was caused, rather than in an apologetic sense. Ironically, it seems a misunderstanding may have occurred here. Your phrasing certainly did not indicate that you were specifically referring to misunderstandings, and made it seem that you consider apologising in general, for anything, as a "lie".
Everything else I said still stands, though.
Also, sometimes it's the mature thing to apologise even if you don't 100% mean it. Heal rifts, choose your battles, be empathetic to the fact that they were upset, etc.

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Tempest said
NUH UH! TELL THAT LITTLE GUY HOW ADORABLE HE IS! Look into his tiny beady eyes and at his long tiny legs, except his hugs, he'll loves you forever!

And precisely how long ago did the spiders crawl into your brain and possess you? c:

BrobyDDark said
Have you forgotten that Spiderman's powers are to tie people up, climb up walls, and tingle when there is danger? The dude is a walking BDSM machine.

And Gwen seemed so straight-laced, too...

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Esper said
So making friends isn't science then. Only saying I have certain traits like that where I do things and it isn't personal and I don't do sorry very well either because that would also involve lying. Basically I want someone I can relax around and those traits seem to allow that.

So how do I speak to someone on a personal level without pissing them off. I also am rather terrible with small talk. No ability to keep the conversation going.

I don't think you need a list of criteria to know whether you feel comfortable around someone you meet. Either you do, or don't. Hazing people out before you've even given them a chance because they don't seem to fit your criteria wouldn't be very... productive, to talk about it in more detached/scientific terms. Talk to people - if you feel comfortable, accept it, let that be, you don't need to check it against a list of criteria.
To be honest though, if you're unpredictable cold and brusque to people, and don't say sorry when you hurt people, and expect them not to be bothered by that... you're going to struggle to make friends, or to get close to people. A core part of that is caring about them, and them caring about you - so of course if you treat them like shit, that's not gonna happen. Your idea of someone being easy to relax around seems to mean neither you or them caring enough to get hurt or to argue or to ever have any responsibility/commitment to the relationship between the two of you. That's fine - everyone has mates like that, who you're friendly with but aren't exactly super-close to - but be aware that you'll struggle to find really good, lifelong friends who'll stick by you if you act like that and actively look for people who don't care enough about you to ever get bothered or hurt or whatever by you.

Well, general conversation shouldn't piss people off. If you are pissing people off, you need to look at what you're doing that's consistently angering people. Just be polite, and try not to be abrasive. As for small talk stuff, well, lots of people are shite at it. I am, too. Talk about yourself; your interests; and ask about them about their lives. Show an interest in people and their experiences and their thoughts.

One rage gif just wouldn't do it....

I think the thing that concerns me about the expansion of Google's empire and the interlinking of multiple services is privacy. Whereas previously only YouTube knew what I YouTubed and only Google knew what I Googled and only Facebook knew what I Facebooked, the steadily all-encompassing web of linked services means that one company knows everything I search, post, and say. There's a reason the idea of governments invading our privacy disturbs us; it should freak us out just as much that a private corporation is slowly attempting the same thing - to collect/have access to information about every facet of our lives. Even assuming it wouldn't be abused by Google (fat chance), if they own everything and all those services/information is linked together, the potential for catastrophe if their servers go down or, god forbid, they're hacked is limitless.
Furthermore, I don't think monopolies are ever good, on multiple levels.

So while I agree it doesn't necessarily mean Twitch itself will change all that much, I do agree that the general trend is worrying.

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Tempest said
yeah, if that was a euphemism... it may have been a bit disturbing... but then.... *elopes with Esp*Spiders are cute and lovable :D Especially THIS little guy!

You are the fucking worst, Tempest. I liked you before this. ;-;

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BrobyDDark said
Think far into the future to an age of horrid mutations created by SCIENCE! There you will discover the worst creature known to Man.... THE G-SPOT SPIDER!

Discuss on what this could be.

This is even more deeply disturbing when combined with your avatar. Christ, please don't try to combine Spiderman's powers with sexual dynamism.

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Esper said
Someone that gives me fuzzy warm feelings inside and to hang out with. Possibly get drunk with and have inappropriate adventures. A few qualities I might like are:Not get emotional when I turn icy cold.Doesn't take things personally too often.Likes a happy mix of serious and joking with a touch of innuendo. Isn't ignorant in terms of learning.Knows when to shut up.

People aren't gonna fill out an application for the role of "friend", Espy xD You're not gonna be able to haze them for things you don't like and cherry-pick the perfect mate. Okay, sure, there are certain types of people we all get on with, but I wouldn't have a list of categories like that. You meet someone, either you like them and can have a nice conversation or you don't, and you get to know them if the former applies. Your friends will have traits that piss you the hell off, but you love them anyway for their good qualities. Imo, you can't go out there looking for people who'll perfectly fit some set of criteria you have - it's not searching for someone to fill a role or do a job, it's searching for a friend. That's something a little more organic, natural, messy, and unpredictable. Just talk to people. If you like them, carry on talking to them. See where it goes, what trusts and feelings develop. And maybe they will be someone who gets upset when you get icy cold, even if that frustrates you, and you'll need to compromise on that behaviour to maintain your friendship because you care about them.

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There are far too many spider enthusiasts in Spam. 'Tis worse than the cabbage-lovers.

EDIT: Like seriously, how did we go from g-spots to spiders in less than a page? That is the worst conversation direction change ever.