All very true, and I may change my mind in the future, but I doubt it. I've been to enough funerals for people I cared about and people I didn't, so I have a pretty good idea of how I want to deal with it when it happens. But the future isn't set in stone.
Oh no, she's not dead yet. This all stemmed from a hypotheitical conversation. My mom is doing very well actually. She had back surgery for a slipped disk not too long ago and is feeling better than she has in a long time.