Brovo said
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(To explain my older post:)
Yeah, I know what the next paragraph was. I'm just pointing out how the previous one read. Offensive actions = bad, saying it's offensive is an automatic discouragement, even if you say they weren't in the wrong (unless acting offensive or obnoxious is the point, but that's a tangent).
I don't agree that questioning one's actions is the same as questioning their character (which was meant to be the main point, my bad if the post got disjointed, thar); it contradicts an essential part of debate etiquette. One can criticize someone's actions without it inherently out to offend the other party, and the other party can take the criticism of their actions without automatically being offended.
E.g. If a friend pulls you aside from a conversation to point out you did something dickish, they're not saying you're a dick. They're trying to prevent the same mistake again, and probably doing you a favor in whatever social graces in future.
(Though, I'll admit, it helps that this example's done aside public discussion, and not among it. The thread shiz got the latter treatment.)
And, on that note, criticizing an RP'ers bio is indirectly criticizing what they do, because they
wrote and usually spent time on that bio. Pointing out a flaw in the bio is pointing out something wrong with their writing or their writing skills. Criticizing how they play or act is directly criticizing what they do. That (usually) doesn't state they're a bad player. Or, at least, a bad person.
Not saying it's wrong to be offended, I get why that happened. I just don't agree with the earlier point you made. About how to debate or discuss a disagreed point or action.
EDIT: I should say, though, that it seems we're actually mostly of agreement (albeit in different words). I didn't realize this initially. At this point, this is almost just a winded discussion in semantics. Apologies for that.