Awson said
This actually reminds of an AskReddit thread about the flamboyant homosexual male voice. Someone said something like "Half the people say they can control it if they want to, the other half say it's natural." Well, I bet the other half has plenty of liars on their side. If you're doing an out-of-the-ordinary voice in order to fit in, you probably wouldn't fess up to it when asked about it. Or rather, certain types of people wouldn't. My point? People are fake.
I went to a lecture on the history of gay language the other week. It was mostly about Polari, but it did mention that flamboyancy may be a similar sort of coding between gays/a way to define themselves as a subculture as Polari was. A lot less subtle obviously, as well, because there's so much less reason to hide it. Thought it was interesting anyway.
idlehands said
Some people get jealous when another is different and gets attention from it. I'm guessing it's some catty girls that are accusing you of this? And yes there are some chicks that will make out together at a party just to titillate the guys there and be the center of attention. It's silly and pathetic and can affect the legitimacy of being bisexual in the eyes of other idiots.
I don't really get why this is a problem, consenting adults can do what they like with each other and that shouldn't mean what they like within the label they identify as, or others identify them as. I'm by no means saying girls who do this are experimenting, as I imagine most aren't, they are doing it for attention and so what? If it was more acceptable for straight people to make out with those of the same gender then maybe they wouldn't be undermining bisexuality by having to claim to be bi to make out. In a similar vein you could say gay people denying their sexuality undermines people identifying as straight or bi, but even typing those words makes me feel dirty. As Magic said no-one should make accusations about someones claimed sexuality, and ultimately by denying your sexuality you only hurt yourself.
But, yeah, labels are really stupid, and if girls want to make out to get guys, or if straight guys want to play gay chicken, or straight/gay people would consider a threesome to make a partner happy, or people actually enjoy making out with people they'd never sleep with it's only because they're defying their label that we judge.
