Hidden 6 yrs ago Post by rebornfan320
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I need some advice on what to do with this dilemma I find myself in once again. Well I had another partner in a roleplay stop on me again due to outside activities in life and a low level of passion. And now my confidence in roleplays, finding a compatible partner and in myself has lowered considerably. I don't know if I need a break because I keep thinking it's me more often than my partner, my interests don't line up with the general trend or it's just me being frustrated that no matter what I do in order to garner more interest things haven't gone my way.

So I ask any one that sees this on what would you do in this situation.
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It's hard to find people who will stick with you, be it a 1v1 or a group RP. But I have seen a correlation between someone's staying power and their level of friendship. That is to say the more someone genuinely likes you, the less likely they are to just bail on an RP on you. So maybe instead of looking for "Rp partners." Try looking for friends. Just find people to talk to! It might sound silly, but during the planning phase for my group RP I just chased down anyone with a Danganronpa avatar and started talking about our favorite characters, what we liked and didn't like about the game/anime, etc. I eventually started to sneak in details about my upcoming group RP, and I didn't get put off by the fact that some of them didn't think they'd have time to join. Now we have a discord, and everyone has a very strong connection with each other.

But the trick is not to expect this to happen overnight, and not to get discouraged if the first person you decide to talk to doesn't want to be friends. I talked to many people over the course of months. That's not to say you need to talk to people for months before you RP with them, but you might.

There's a saying that goes something like "You need to be happy to find success, not have success to find happiness." No one will want to roleplay with you if you're mopey all the time. Find your mojo, get some friends, and write some stories.
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Well you are right on one thing. It is hard to find people to stick with rather it is a 1v1 or a group style RP. I'm going to be honest on this point that the idea to find people to talk to on here does in fact sound silly, and sometimes to not get discouraged by the first person that doesn't want to be friends or to RP is easier said than done.
I don't think I'm mopey all the time but I'm rather frustrated by it happening to me more often and it feels like it has indeed happen to me more often than anyone, even IF I look for friends on here I wouldn't know where to start or who to trust. I just feel at this point for me I'm frustrated, I feel like the world has turned against me despite my best efforts to appeal to others for interest and it hasn't worked at all. I don't know what to do anymore at this point.
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Mopey, frustrated, irritated, whiny, I don't care what word we use to describe it, there are negative emotions there. My point is that it's that kind of negative thinking that drives people away. The world is against you? You have more people drop out on you than anyone else? Says who? the 1x1 section is filled with incomplete roleplays, and the status bar always has a number of people complaining about their 1x1 woes. Trust me, you're not alone.

I mean, I haven't seen how you write. Maybe you really are the worst roleplayer I've ever seen. but there should still be people who are either in your skill range or can connect with you on a human level. That's why becoming people's friends is so important. Because you're writing stories with other people. I don't care if you're the best writer on the forum. If your personality grates on me, I won't want to write with you.

It really is just as easy or hard as being happy. That's not just a rule for roleplaying, it's a rule for life. If you learn how to mentally sort yourself out, you can radiate positive emotions that will attract people to you.

Also, maybe you're going at this wrong. Why not try group roleplays? GMs tend to be less picky about the people they get, as they need as many people as possible to make their ideas work. They don't always get off the ground, they don't always last more than a few weeks, but hey, it's a great way to get introduced to a bunch of people if you don't like the idea of PMing people.
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Well I have been told of the negative emotion aspect before but I think to me i am not being negative at all because I'm expressing what I feel on the inside. In terms of me not being alone with the 1x1 woes I find it hard to believe but I'll try to get out of my own view while looking at it in a broader scope.
The reason I don't try group roleplays is because i have never done them before and i feel like i will be left behind if i ever step foot in one, in terms of being happy or miserable I had mentally sorted myself out and I still get stops and drops in roleplays and i find it frustrating so in a way while being truthful i am finding it hard to be happy while it feels nothing is going the way i want them to.
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