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STATUS: Well, there's something I'm fortunate not to have seen. :P 2 days ago
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Well, there's something I'm fortunate not to have seen. :P
3 days ago
I've never changed usernames, nor do I have any desire to do so! I kinda dig having a fixed means for being recognized by the others on the Guild!
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5 days ago
Like hornets and wasps? Yeah. Those can retract their stingers and sting you multiple times. Hornets kill bees whenever they can manage. You don't wanna be stung by one!
6 days ago
And I thought shipping Izuku Midoriya with his hospital bed was weird. :P
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Finally. What a drama queen...
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Male, 1x1 Casual-level roleplayer. Not interested in long-term RPs or groups, sorry!
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Again, if you think the friends > lovers tropes involves "Nice Guys" hoping to be rewarded for hanging around and not y'know genuine friends developing their relationship further... sure, that's your interpretation of it lol.
No, but it generally ends up becoming that in practice, because men who buy into it get false expectations when they use these stories as manuals. When they try to apply this stuff in real life, it usually turns into what you described. And while I don't like having to state the obvious multiple times, what I dislike even more are platitudes and cliches. :P
Have you considered romance is something that happens organically for the most part and isn't a flow chart followed by automatons?
Don't project on me. Only real-life experience can determine one's perception of what's organic and what works. And if you're going to dismiss someone's experience because it upsets you or doesn't align with your views, more power to you!
I've seen the things I've pointed out play out pretty consistently - personal quirks and all considered. Whether it's an early first meeting, or long-time friends who begin to act friendlier than usual because their perceptions of one another change, what's essential is that the romantic agenda being put on the table in a transparent way. How can you have a healthy relationship without honesty?
Based on my experience and my friends' experience, friends becoming lovers is very rare in practice, because it tends to devolve into friendship as courtship. Asking outright is more common and tends to work better. That's a fact. There's no reason to get mad, and there's no reason to put words in my mouth that I never said.
The hype for "friends to lovers" arises mostly from fiction and fantasy, not experience.
It can't be if I have seen it otherwise first hand in my own experience. Lol
So, you're dismissing my experience because it doesn't fit into your narrative? Class act!
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