SkullsandSlippers
<Snipped quote by Zarkun>
I've said it all before to my mother and father, but then they see it as I'm the bad one.
I've said it to my brother, that he isn't very nice, that his selfish and a jerk when he was having a go at my mother. And he turned it so he was the victim "my own sister! How can you" crap.
My mothers like "I can't cut him off completely" and I'm like well maybe if you stop enabling him, but she doesn't see it that way. He's going to kill her, but she doesn't see it. A lot of her stress comes from him.
I can say it all until I'm blue in the face. It won't make a difference. Perhaps the worst part is I practically kill myself to make things easier around home, but if I don't do one thing or forget to do one thing, it's "you never do anything around here to help me out" and then my brother swoops in to "save the day" and he's the best person alive. I'm like...I do everything...I'm studying...can't I be human?
I've said this to them before and they're like "oh I know o know, and we appreciate blah blah blah" but then...sigh
It will be better when he's gone again
Sorry things haven't been so well at home :(
I'd say I'd understand but in reality I don't.
As the earlier life sharing session went, I do know of loneliness, to feel abandoned or unwanted, even if I do know that isn't true.
As a only child, I don't share any sibling benefits or complications. Nor do I have a mother who would ever tolerate that sort of behavor. She almost threw me out for not having a job. Someone like your brother, would be disowned, or killed. Or whipped. Or whatever.
She's a tolerant mother. Doesn't care if your gay, tran, religion, a bit weird in the head, see dead people, talk of the amazing things of death. Just know that she's the boss of the household, no smoking, be smart in sex blah blah, and pull your weight and your good.
But, she also doesn't care for those she isn't close to relationship wise. Blood doesn't matter to her. Sister who slept with your husband on the wedding day? Drop her. Child who's being a little shit trying to pull a fast one? Gone.
So I suppose the only 'motherly' situation like that I would know is TV which isn't the best example.
But still, hope things get better and you get well soon
